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I can be a little obsessive. Just ask anyone who knows me. I worry about my kids (well, I suspect every parent does that); I worry about my friends’ kids. I frequently worry about strangers’ kids. I worry about my Mom. I worry about my home. I worry about the environment – a lot.
In a time when people – even dear friends and family – are divided over just about everything; in a time when most news channels cover stories that have been carefully crafted and custom-designed with a very specific viewer in mind, it is impossible not to take a side. Do you lean to the left? There are news channels guaranteed to mirror exactly how you feel about every possible news story that interests you! Do you lean to the right? We’ll provide you with news guaranteed to make the left look like idiots! Just watching the news is pretty much certain to leave you feeling confused, torn, frustrated, anxious, and likely, pretty angry.
Back in the days when the news was, I believe, quite a bit more impartial, I recall my father (who would have been about the age that I am now) watching the news channel – and the weather channel – pretty much to the exclusion of everything else. I recall privately rolling my eyes at this when I was in my thirties and my forties. How could those be the only things of interest to him, when there were so many other things to watch?
And yet somehow, somewhere in my fifties, I began doing the same thing. There was always something to become a little obsessed about: climate change; some terrible weather system that was bearing down on some country, somewhere in the world; that next species that was now in danger of extinction; that crazy politician who seemed hell-bent on single-handedly dividing the world…
When you obsessively watch the news, you discover that there is always something to fret about; some riveting story to follow; something to keep abreast of. The thing about bad news is that there is always going to be an unlimited, endless supply of it, just waiting in the wings. And the problem with bad news is that it has a way of convincing you that there is no other kind of news to be had.
For many months, now, I have been making an all-out effort not to watch more than one cycle of the news each day. I try to limit my watching to either the six o’clock suppertime news or the ten o’clock evening news. I also do my best to stop watching after the newscasters have read through all the major headlines (you know, when they’ve given you all the facts and now must resort to guessing, inferring, suggesting or outright winging it for ratings).
My husband – who inadvertently becomes the sounding board for all of my worried ruminating, has been delighted with this turn of events.
The one difference to our limit-the-news-we-watch rule is our local news channel. I don’t know how local news looks in other provinces of Canada but here in the Atlantic provinces, our local news is… and I assure you, there’s no other word for it… sweet.
There is always a segment – including photos – devoted to the birthdays of folks who have made it past age 95 or so. This same segment also includes pictures of couples who have been married for 60 years or more. The weatherman, Kalin, always highlights a child’s drawing – usually including rain, rainbows or snowflakes – and sometimes all three together. Katie does cheerful features on local artists, musicians and other upbeat stories. Jason and Maria present local news stories – the majority of them about people being kind to one another – and I frequently cry right along with Maria as the story unfolds (she doesn’t do the ugly cry like I do, though). Last night, there was a segment featuring the arrival of a pair of guinea pigs who were recently adopted by an elementary school in a neighbouring city of our province. During that same show, Jason also took a colleague’s puppy for a little walk, just outside the station, and chatted with surprised, star-struck passersby. You may have noticed that we know all of the newscasters by their first names: it is not unheard of for one or the other of us to call out, “Come and listen! Kalin’s about to tell us about that weather system that’s moving in from the States!”
Yes, there is occasionally – frequently even – bad news in our little corner of the world but that type of news is reserved for the more serious six o’clock news.
I’ve been feeling much better lately. Oh, I am still very much concerned about crime, politics, corruption, global pandemics, species extinction and the environment, to mention but a few. But it’s easier not to obsess about it when you limit what you hear to a wee bit of spoon-feeding each day, and you focus instead on the good news stories; the sweet news stories; the uplifting news stories.
I guarantee you: there are more of those types of stories out there than the other kind. It’s just that those stories don’t generally make the news.
Well, except for here, in my neck of the woods…
Patti Moore Wilson/© wednesdayschildca.wordpress.com
Ah, how the world changes! Living in the UK I was used to listening to Alistair Cooke’s “Letter from America” because my father loved it. Nowadays, there is nothing like it; it is all left or right, one side or another! It seems to me that nowhere is there any middle ground! 🙋♂️
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I had to look him up, Ashley 🙂 I don’t know if they played his radio broadcasts in Canada or not. I am attaching a lovely link for others who might want a taste of a bygone era, and I sincerely thank you for sharing this with me. Yes, that was a kinder, gentler time, for sure. And I, too, miss the days of a middle ground…
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Yes, that’s the man with a wonderful voice! Actually, my parents didn’t have a “radio” they had a big old “wireless” which was about 3′ long! 😊🙋♂️
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Wow 🙂🙂🙂💕
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Don’t we miss those days? Everything was less complicated then and so much more fun.
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That is so true Lena 🙂 I think we could all use a life with fewer complications. Thank you, by the way, for the follow! And I’m very glad to have found your blog, as well 🙂🙏
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I’m also glad I found your blog, Patti! Thank you for the follow as well!
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When life was simpler… To take one area of the economy, banking. Before all the intricate ways of moving money around, dealing in futures, what about derivatives, residual income schemes… With all the mix of complications, things are bound to go wrong and then set up a domino effect of problems.
We make our bed, and then have to lie in it.
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That’s very true, Jasper. That’s why – even though I know we have to move forward in life – I don’t like that kind of change all that much.
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The increased complexity in some areas comes with the motivation to improve life while others are motivated by personal greed benefiting personally at the expense of others.
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I feel much the same. I do more reading than watching (I’ve had an aversion to television in general since the mid 90s), but I’ve reduced the volume that I consume in the past few years, often just scanning headlines instead of actually digging into the body of the articles. I definitely avoid click bait headlines when I can.
My outlook had improved dramatically as a result. I have a hard time now staying interested enough in negative news to finish an article at all sometimes.
Great post.
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Good for you, Michael, and thank you so much for your encouragement, which I appreciate more than I know how to say. Yes, it’s amazing how much all that constant bombardment of information can affect our mood. And, like the click bait you are so careful to avoid, it’s all designed to be so enticing; almost impossible to turn a blind eye. In this day and age, it takes a very strong person to choose to ignore the constant, mesmerizing pull of the media.
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Me too, me too and me too!
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I avoid national type news shows Patti and stick with local, although those stories repeat solidly throughout the day so really it’s still news overload if you watch them all. I turn my local channel on to hear the weather in the morning, then back on at dinnertime to get a quick update on local stuff. It’s almost always the same. Watching news on TV means being a wise consumer I think, no matter how much or what type you watch.
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Well said, Deb!!! There has never been a time when it has been so important to be a wise consumer of the news (and everything else that’s out there giving us constant information overload, come to think of it).
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Your local news sounds wonderful , Patti!
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It really is 🙂 We didn’t know quite WHAT to think when we first moved here eight years ago. We had lived in a province where people live and breathe politics and everyone – even kids – are a little jaded. But now we smile at one another all through every broadcast and thank our lucky stars that we live where we do 🙂
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It’s funny that as I read this, the news is on behind me and my 7-year-old daughter has been horrified by a couple of stories about violence in our world. This is a great reminder to turn it off and temper it with uplifting stuff. How wonderful that your local news builds this in!
One of the things that I really enjoy about the WordPress community is that there is so much uplifting and inspirational content. This article is a great example of that! Thank you, Patti!
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Aw, thank you so much, Wynne 🙂🙂🙂🙏 I have written my share of stories that go back to the more difficult parts of my life, but I always feel best about the uplifting ones. Yes, it’s hard to keep our children completely away from the news (a hard one for my kids at the age yours are now was 9/11 😔) but like you, I think it’s good to try to keep that stuff to a minimum, when we can. I really, really appreciate your encouragement and your support. I’m so glad that you are part of my WordPress community 🙂💕🙏
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You make such a good point about the stories where we deal with wounds, hardship, and lessons learned. But even then, it seems this WP community writes about them with an eye on growth and learning.
Wowsa, 9/11 had to be a difficult thing to navigate with young kids. Every day we walk the balance between reality and outlook, don’t we? Happy Saturday, Patti!
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During Covid I had to start restricting my intact and I am still on that trend. I carefully watch the amount of scrolling I do and what site it is on. We rarely watch the local news so I’m not sure if it’s the same in Sask. Bernie
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I am amazed – in a good way – to learn how many other people I know have been consciously limiting their contact with the news. Very glad you stopped by, Bernie 🙂 I’ve been trying to check out your blog but the link isn’t working (?)
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Ah yes and my grasp of how to make it work seems “weak.” But if you go to Jane’s post, perhaps you can follow the comment to my site.
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I don’t think it’s you; maybe it’s WordPress? There have been some changes lately, with the new Jetpack phone app. That was a great suggestion but it didn’t work 🤷♀️😕 I’ll try later! So glad you stopped by and I sure do appreciate your feedback…
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We have an exceptional community here on WordPress! 😊
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We sure do, Ana 🙂🙂🙂💕
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You raise such interesting points about our news today. I watch only our local TV news at noon. It’s not as “sweet” as your news but, apart from the local and regional weather report, I learn about what’s going on in our city and state, good and bad alike. The cultural segment is my favorite.
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That sounds like a very balanced approach, Rosaliene. It’s always important to stay current, but we can do that without being obsessive. I find that it does take discipline though: the media are masters at drawing you in and keeping you in 😬
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Wise woman, Patti. I may have to follow your lead!
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I look forward to hearing what you think about that newscast, Jane 🙂 Do give it a bit of time though. It’s a little hard to believe such niceness, at first…
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LOL. I was thinking more of NO newscasts! 😏
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Oh. 🤓😂
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I love all of this, Patti. I’ve needed to distance myself from news for all the reasons you mentioned…but if we had local news that’s as lively and uplifting as yours, I’m sure I’d tune in more. I love the reminders, too, from others who’ve commented – sharing that the WP community provides so many feel-good moments, despite the unfortunate news around us, day in and day out. Thanks for being one of those bright lights, Patti! 🥰🥰🥰
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Oh Vicki, what a lovely comment 🙂💕🙏 You have such a way of leaving people better than you found them! Yes, we are blessed to have our WP community. It’s quite lovely here 🙂
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Oh my goodness…what a compliment, Patti. I’d say the same about you — and this post proves it! Thank you for being a blessed blogging buddy! 🥰
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I, too, remember when the news was just THE NEWS and presented in a more impartial way. When news stations began to emotionally twist the news I stopped watching any TV news. I read about the news now, but that’s a more distanced way to absorb it.
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Smart move, Ally Bean! And so disciplined… 🙂🙂🙂
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Mrs. Chess and I were just talking yesterday about how positively pursuing bad news brings on…more bad news. I think the news media has always tried to sell fear and fear of the unknown as a way to draw one in, but after the recent politics and global pandemic many folks are now “hooked” on bad news. I have a national news feed on my phone, and I will read its headlines twice a day at most. If anything really affects me, I’ll dig deeper. But to be honest, most of it just doesn’t seem newsworthy at all.
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That’s a very good approach, Bruce. I think I will do the same thing and download a news feed on my phone as well. I do believe bad news can be addictive. We humans must be hardwired to stop and look when bad things happen. It makes me feel less alone to hear so many other WordPress bloggers telling me they have similar feelings about the current news media, and to hear how they are navigating it. Thank you so much for sharing!
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I remember when my Dad stopped reading the newspaper. He read about an eight year old who died after falling in a vat of oil in Italy. He declared he no longer needed to read “news” gathered from around the world just to horrify him. I never wanted to seem ignorant, so kept up with all the news until recent years. Now I have become my Dad and intentionally avoid television news and print online/news stories. Plenty of people notify me when something truly important has happened. I skip all the anticipatory debates and post analysis while I watch old movies or sports, read Blog posts, or take a walk. Who cares if people think I am apathetic?
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Some people call it apathetic; others call it self protection 🤷♀️ Your poor Dad: I can understand why that story soured him from reading any more newspapers… I like skipping anticipatory debates and post analyses too. Life feels WAY less stressful and overwhelming when I do…
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I miss the days when news was just news, not opinion pieces devised to sway us or assuage us. Where is Walter Cronkite when you need him. I hear you on worrying and I am glad your local news source provides some a dose of happy news. We all need more happy news. Cheers.
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Oh I sure do hear you, Allan… You have to wonder if we are all losing our critical thinking skills, having all those talking heads doing the thinking for us 😕
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Your comment on critical thinking skills reminded me of what I used to say when I was working and somebody told me I needed to have a more positive attitude. I replied I am positive that I have an attitude. My boss once asked me…Allan, can you teach common sense? I wanted to reply…Since you asked the question, you obviously do not have common sense. Instead, I simply said No, you either have it or you don’t. Common sense and critical thinking skills go hand in hand. We try to look at several different slants on the news stories and then use “common sense” to determine which sounds most correct.
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Now THERE’s some food for thought! I think we can emulate using one’s common sense to children, and we can certainly learn critical thinking skills in school, but like you, I have wondered if they are really taught or if the aptitude was already there in the first place (or not 😬)
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In my life before motherhood, I was a journalist at a major newspaper. We talked about this a lot—balance. We tried to do that by having sections dedicated to “good news” or “fluff pieces” to balance out things. My favorite thing we did each year was an insert on Thanksgiving called “The Book of Dreams.” It highlighted people in our community in need and provided specific things the community could donate for (dollhouse for kids waiting at social services, karaoke machine for those at the woman’s shelter, a catcher whose softball gear was stolen months before the big high school game). Then, on Christmas Day, we posted the happy pictures of all these wishes being fulfilled.
All of this to say, I think newspapers do a better job because they can see (by page number) how equal or unequal their coverage is.
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I am so glad to hear of such a lovely thing as The Book of Dreams, Bridgette. What a truly lovely thing to do (I hope they still are…) Yes, it would help to have a visual for balancing the positive pieces with the bad news pieces. That must have been a wonderful place to work! Thank you so much for your lovely comments this morning. They are much, much appreciated…xo 💕🙂🙏
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